Written By: Darlene G. Snyder
These tips are mainly written with thoughts of what you can do; actions to take that could possibly help you have a stronger marriage and a happier life.
- Take care of yourself. Exercise, eat right and make sure to keep all doctors’ appointments. Are you failing in this area? Do you need to shed a few pounds, gain a few or begin exercising? A brisk walk can lift your spirits. A few pounds off the belly can help your self-esteem and feeling of self-worth.
- Plan date nights with the spouse. If money is tight, instead of going out, plan a time to sit and talk with your spouse after the children are in bed. I’ve found women are unhappy, because they don’t get to spend quality time with their spouse. This is too important for your marriage to overlook. Drifting apart is one of the first danger signs in dying marriages.
- As much as possible, cut down on the stresses of work. Stop sweating the small things. Sometimes when we work outside the home, we bring the job site to our home site and in doing so we suffocate our children and our spouse with all the problems. Leave work at work.
- Find inner peace. How? Slow down and spend time alone with God. Perform some soul-searching by answering these questions; what will it take to make your life more meaningful? What is true happiness?
- Count your blessings. Write them if you must. Consider all that you have in your life, remembering that the important things in life are not things at all. The important things are the people in your life.
- Share – Give of yourself. Here’s a quote I really like, “Happiness is like a kiss…you must share it to enjoy it.” author unknown. Sometimes the best way to be happy is to help others. Look around you, how can you give of yourself?
- Develop a forgiving spirit by learning to forgive. It is detrimental to our health and happiness to hold onto grudges, hurts and anger. Here’s a quote for you to consider, “To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” Robert Muller.
- Spend time with your family. Remember that it’s relationships that bring happiness, not the material things in the world.
- Don’t compare yourself or your marriage to others. Making comparisons will only bring unhappiness and will never do you any good. Things are not always the way they appear and grass isn’t always greener on the other side of the fence even when it appears to be.
- This last tip really belongs on the top of the list, but I put it here in hopes that you’ll remember it. Pray or meditate. This is one of the most effective ways to calm you and to gain inner peace and happiness. When you are feeling overwhelmed, a session with the Master, praying and meditating can help clear your mind and give you direction.
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